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Advance Directives and POLST for Dementia

One is a legal document in a drawer. The other is a medical order that paramedics will actually follow. Most families only have the first.

Key takeaways

  • An advance directive is a legal document the person writes. A POLST is a medical order a clinician signs after a conversation.
  • Paramedics generally follow a POLST or a DNR. They do not follow a living will. That single fact decides what happens when somebody calls 911.
  • A POLST travels with her — into the ambulance, the emergency room, the facility chart. An advance directive usually sits in a drawer.
  • POLST is for people who are seriously ill or frail. Advanced dementia qualifies.
  • It covers four things: CPR, whether to transfer to the hospital, intensive treatment including ventilation, and artificial feeding.
  • Dementia needs its own conversation, because the standard forms assume a decision point that dementia never provides.
  • Names and rules vary by state — POLST, MOLST, POST, COLST. Ask what yours is called.

What is the difference between an advance directive and a POLST?

One is a legal document she writes for the future. The other is a medical order a clinician signs for right now.

Almost every family has heard of the first and almost none have the second, and the gap between them is where unwanted resuscitations happen.

The distinction that matters when the paramedics arrive: paramedics responding to a 911 call will generally follow a POLST or an out-of-hospital DNR. They will not follow a living will. Emergency responders act on medical orders, not legal documents, and they are not going to stand in a hallway reading a directive while somebody is not breathing. Without a POLST, the default is full resuscitation.

What a POLST covers

Four decisions, each answerable separately.

The second one carries more weight in dementia than families expect. Hospital transfer is frequently the single most burdensome thing that happens to someone with advanced dementia — unfamiliar rooms, restraints, delirium, decline — and much of it can be avoided by treating in place. A POLST that says comfort-focused treatment, transfer only if comfort needs cannot be met here changes what happens on a Sunday night, without waiting for anyone to reach you.

It is not all-or-nothing. Full CPR with no hospital transfer is a coherent combination. So is comfort-focused care with antibiotics. The form exists to let those decisions come apart.

Why dementia needs its own conversation

Standard forms assume a moment of crisis. Dementia gives you a decade of gradual change instead.

Most advance directives are written around a scenario — terminal illness, permanent unconsciousness — and ask what should happen then. Dementia does not work that way. There is no day the illness announces itself as final. She will be moderately impaired for years, then severely impaired for years, and every intervention question arrives repeatedly along the way.

Dementia-specific supplements exist for this. They let someone record different instructions at different stages: what she would want treated while she still knows her family, and what she would want when she no longer does. Given how long the late stage can run, that distinction does real work.

Some versions also address assisted feeding by hand, which is genuinely contested. States differ, facilities differ, and a directive refusing hand feeding may not be honored where she lives. If that matters to her, raise it with an attorney and with the facility, and find out now rather than discovering later that nobody will act on it.

Doing it in the right order

Directive early, while she can still write it. POLST later, when frailty makes an emergency likely.

None of this is about giving up. It is about being the one who decides, instead of leaving it to whoever is on shift when the phone rings.

Frequently asked questions

Do we need both?
Yes, and they do different jobs. The advance directive names her decision-maker and records what she wants while she can still say it — that is the document to complete early, right after diagnosis. The POLST turns those wishes into actionable medical orders and matters most in the late stage, when an emergency is likely. Complete the directive now; add the POLST when she becomes frail or enters advanced illness.
Can I sign a POLST for her if she no longer has capacity?
Generally yes, if you are her legally authorized decision-maker, and the form is signed by a clinician after a conversation with you. That conversation is the point of the exercise. Bring her advance directive to it so the orders reflect what she said when she could still say it, rather than what you are guessing under pressure.
Does a DNR mean she gets no treatment?
No, and this misunderstanding causes real harm. A do-not-resuscitate order applies to one thing: attempting CPR if her heart stops. It does not affect antibiotics, pain relief, oxygen, comfort care, or anything else. A POLST is more useful precisely because it lets you separate those decisions instead of collapsing them into one.
What is a dementia-specific directive?
A supplement written for the fact that dementia has stages rather than a moment. It lets someone record different instructions for mild, moderate and advanced disease — for example accepting antibiotics early and declining them later. Some versions also address assisted feeding by hand, which is contested and treated differently across states and facilities. If that section matters to her, discuss it with an attorney and with the facility, because a wish nobody will carry out is not a plan.

Decide it now, so nobody has to guess later.

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Sources

  1. National POLST. About the POLST Form.
  2. Advance Directives. StatPearls, National Center for Biotechnology Information.
  3. Alzheimer's Association. Legal Documents.
A gentle note. Day to Day Dementia offers peer support and education — nobody here is an attorney and none of this is legal advice. Capacity standards, document requirements, guardianship procedures and costs vary substantially by state and change over time. Have documents drafted by an elder law attorney licensed where you live. Downloadable forms fail often enough, and in exactly the circumstances where failure costs the most.